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Quarantine Day 17

I live in Ohio . . . I work at the local Public Library . . . the library has been closed since March 18 . . . that makes today Day 17 of the Quarantine.

I work in the business office and am considered an “essential” employee and am lucky enough to work from home . . . I have a laptop, a mobile hotspot device and set up a work space in the basement in Prince Charming’s Ham Radio area (he called it his Ham Shack).  It’s a little chilly so I bought an “office cardigan” and a little space heater to keep me warm in my new work space.  Except for the whole “world health crisis” thing, life is pretty good . . .

With the trouble I have with my low level anxiety, I’m surprised that this hasn’t thrown me off the deep end.  I’m not having any problems with stress or worry . . . I guess the whole “I’ve already faced my worst nightmare” thing has prepared me nicely for this new reality . . .

That being said . . . I do worry about my Mom’s health . . . she’s 85 and has some underlying health issues . . . I’m concerned about BIL #1’s health . . . he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s a couple of years ago . . . I’m worried about Baby Sister as she struggles with anxiety and is not doing well facing this crisis . . . but I’m confident we will get through this . . . we’re tough cookies.

I’m enjoying having time at home with the dogs.  Millie is THRILLED that I’m home all the time because that means more cookies.  Rocky is not thrilled.  I’m home all the time which means that Millie is spending a lot more time out of her crate and BOTHERING him as he’s trying to nap.

There’s a zillion things I SHOULD be doing . . . cleaning . . . organizing . . . reading . . . working on my cross stitch projects . . . finding new recipes in my cookbooks . . . and I’m not doing any of that . . .

I’m walking the dogs and enjoying watching spring arrive in my little part of Ohio.  I’m watching stupid TV shows and catching up on my soaps.  I’m reading a lot of silly stuff on the internet . . . and some very serious stuff.  My world stops at 2 pm every day for the Governor’s daily press conference . . . we call it “Wine With DeWine”!

Yes, the coronavirus stuff is serious.  It’s scary.  It’s a strange and scary new world we live in.  But there are a few silver linings in those ugly black storm clouds.

 

 

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Gnome For Christmas

Bless my Mom’s heart. She always seems to know when I need cheering up.

She bought me this cute door mat for Christmas

And . . . This cute guy

Meet Norman! Not only did Mom buy him for me – she ordered him! I think it’s touching that she special ordered a toy for her 55 year old daughter.

For someone with little Christmas spirit, she pulls off some great surprises!

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Tuesday

Tuesday night the siblings and I visit Mom . . . it’s a tradition that started many years ago with a family dinner . . . then evolved to family night with dessert . . .

Today is Tuesday . . . but it’s also a holiday . . . do we go . . . or do we not go . . . I decided to go and had a lovely visit with Mom all by myself . . . the other siblings were there at other times during the day today . . . I just happened to be there at the “regular” Tuesday night time . . . sadly there was no dessert . . . so Mom and I ate some of her Hershey Bells!

Mom asked me why I was there . . . and I told her that it was Tuesday and if I didn’t come tonight then my whole week would be even more off kilter than usual . . . with a holiday today, trash being off a day, and the visitation and a funeral for the young man from Local Catholic School at the end of the week . . . I needed some sense of “normal”

Sometimes it’s the little things in life that mean the most . . .

 

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Girls Day

Went to see the new Mary Poppins movie with Mom, Little Sister and Big Sister.  It was a wonderful movie, and a wonderful time . . .

Although the movie was a bit sappy and I cried a bit more than I expected to.

One of the highlights, though,  was seeing the “trailer” for the new Downton Abbey movie . . . yes I already have plans to take that day off work so I can be one of the firsts one to see it!!

 

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Every. Stinking. Year.

I’ve known my ex-hubby since 1982 . . .

We dated for 2 years . . .

Were married for 26 years . . .

We’ve been divorced for 8 . . .

and every year since we’ve been divorced he asks me for my parent’s address . . .

so he can send a Christmas card . . .

Mom sends him (and his new wife!) birthday cards every year . . . and Christmas cards!!  (She knows that my marriage was awful but she still thinks of him as “family” because he’s been around for so many years.  It speaks more of her character than it does of his. And that’s a story for another day.)

And because it’s easier to tell him the address than to get into why he should know it by now . . . and because I know Mom would be hurt if she didn’t get a card from him . . .  I give him the address . . .

But yet I always ask myself “how can he NOT know her address?!”

 

 

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November 24

I was always a good kid.  Typical middle child.  Fly under the radar, stay out of trouble, hope nobody noticed me . . . there were six of us kids and it was pretty easy to blend into the background . . .

Until I turned 16 . . . and I did the Stupid Teenage Rebellion thing . . . and thought I knew everything . . . and my parents didn’t understand anything . . . that’s when my relationship with my Mom became strained . . .

Then I met XH and “settled down” and became a “responsible adult” and things were better . . . until XH and I started having trouble . . . and then we got divorced . . . which was a MAJOR No-No in my Devout Catholic Family . . . and then Prince Charming seemingly appeared out of nowhere . . . and my Mom was thinking “WTF” was going on with me.

Then things evened out again when Mom saw what a positive influence Prince Charming was on me . . . and then when Prince Charming died and she saw her “rebellious girl” turn into a “strong resilient woman” . . .

Then Dad died and I was the only one who truly understood what she was going through on a daily basis . . . and we became buddies . . . crazy broke widow women out on adventures . . . after Mass on Saturday night, we would go to dinner, then out shopping at the Dollar Tree or Five Below or just hanging out.  It has become the highlight of my week.

Today was Adventure Night . . . after Mass, we had quick dinner at Arby’s and then started our new tradition of Mom’s Christmas Shopping Adventure . . . Kohl’s was having a Black Friday sale . . . and Mom had people to buy for . . . so we decided to check out the sale and see how many people we could check off her list . . . we managed to check off three people . . . and saved Mom a boat load of money . . . and we had a wonderful time doing it . . .

If someone had told me twenty or thirty years ago that my relationship with Mom would evolve to this . . . I would have told them they were crazy . . . now I like to think that this is the reward for not us not giving up on each other all those years ago . . .

 

 

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November 22

Happy Thanksgiving . . .

This is the 5th Thanksgiving without Prince Charming . . .

This is the 4th Thanksgiving without my Dad . . .

This is my Great Nephew’s first Thanksgiving . . .

This is Third Niece’s first Thanksgiving as a married woman . . .

This is Second Niece’s first Thanksgiving as an engaged woman . . . and she told Mom today that her and her fiancé are planning to buy a bigger house and they will be hosting Thanksgiving next  year . . . but her fiancé doesn’t quite know that little detail yet!

It was a good day . . . lots of food . . . lots of yummy desserts . . . lots of online shopping after dinner while we were looking at the Black Friday ads . . .

It was a good day . . .

 

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