Monthly Archives: June 2012

He Said, She Said

I’ve always said there are three sides to any story . . . or divorce.

There’s his side.

There’s her side.

And somewhere in the middle is what really happened.

In the beginning, I only heard Prince Charming’s side of the story.  How unhappy he was.  How lonely he was even with another person living in the house with him.  How any attempt at “fixing” the problems were met with either denial or resistance.  One person dominating the relationship and the other person doing everything they could to “keep peace.”  It seemed like Prince Charming’s marriage to The Queen is very similar to my marriage to XH.  Because I had been in that boat myself, I understood why it fell apart, what he went through during the marriage, and what he’s going through now in the divorce process.  But, like I said, there is more than one side to the story and I wondered could it really be that bad.

I believed Prince Charming but I still wanted to give The Queen the benefit of the doubt.

Then I had a chance to meet some of Prince Charming’s friends.  Some of his long-time friends.  Friends from high school.  Friends from the little town in Southern Ohio where he lived for 10 years before he moved to Virginia.  They told me that over the years, he had gotten more quiet and subdued.  They told me he seems much happier these days.  They’ve told me a little about some of the things they saw between Prince Charming and The Queen that made them wonder about the stability of the relationship.  The stories they told me were very similar to the stories that Prince Charming told me.  Their stories made me sad.

But, still, I wanted to give The Queen the benefit of the doubt.

Then when Prince Charming’s Dad passed away, I got to spend time with a lot of his extended family – cousins, aunts, uncles.  During the time they were here, I heard bits and pieces of the background story of Prince Charming’s marriage to The Queen.  More pieces to the puzzle started to fall into place.  It wasn’t a very pretty picture.  It was shaping up to be a very sad story.  My heart was starting to ache for him.

I was beginning to doubt that The Queen deserved the benefit of the doubt I had been giving her.

Then I had an opportunity to hear a conversation between Prince Charming and The Queen and the picture became crystal clear.  It was as bad as he told me.  It was probably worse!  The stories and the bits and pieces of information finally made sense.  She wants what she wants when she wants it and doesn’t care what how it inconveniences anyone.  It’s her way or no way . . . and any compromise is completely out of the question.  There was no warmth, no caring, no desire to understand anything but her point of view.

The cold authoritarian tone of her voice chilled me to the bone.  Her condescending attitude toward Prince Charming made me sad.  Her complete disregard for his feelings (or anyone’s feelings) made me angry.

It was sad to think that these two people had at one time loved each other enough to be married . . . and now they are complete strangers to each other.

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I Should Write A Book

The on-again, off-again relationship with Princess and the GrandGirls is in the off-again stage.

(While I’m sad to be missing the GrandGirls’ graduation, I’m doing a happy dance to not have to deal with their drama for the time being.)

There was an argument and some mean and hurtful things were said to me.

I would have probably said mean and hurtful things, too, if I had been able to get a word in edgewise.

Apparently, XH is also upset about what’s happened.  After 30 years (yes, you read that correctly) of this nonsense, XH has decided it’s finally time to stand up to Princess and wants Princess and GrandGirl apologize for the disrespect that has been shown to me.  (Uh, who is this man and what has he done with my ex-husband?)

Princess told XH she doesn’t owe me anything and she’s done with me.  (And this time she means it!  Excuse me if I’m not completely convinced she’s gone for good this time!)

Her last words to me were to “have a nice life” and “good-bye”

Then to top it all off . . . Princess’ Mom told XH to tell me (are we still in jr high?) that if I don’t stop harassing Princess and the GrandGirls . . . they are going to put a restraining order out on me.

Wait . . . you call me, pick a fight with me, call me names, hang up on me and YOU are going to file a restraining order on ME?  And you have your mom tell your dad to deliver a message to me?

Seriously, folks, I couldn’t make this stuff up if I tried!

 

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Life is Good

(This one is for Beth!)

Cassano’s pizza for supper.

Prince Charming watching is favorite show.

I’m trying to figure out my iPod touch.  It didn’t come with an instruction manual so I had to buy one . . . and it reads just like (duh!) an instruction manual!

Rocky and Millie are outside playing with the puppies next door and chasing lightning bugs.

It’s been rough couple of weeks with Princess and GrandGirl Drama and Allergies From You-Know-Where . . . but I’ve survived . . . I always seem to survive . . . and that’s always a good thing!

But the weekend is here . . . and that’s always a good thing, too!

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