Well, Well, Well

It’s been an interesting few days . . .

There’s another winter storm on the way.  They are predicting ice and snow and rain and freezing rain and very cold temperatures.  Mostly ice.  And I’m hoping for a snow day.

I’m very proud of myself that I didn’t wait til the last minute to do the “bread, milk, dog food” run to the grocery.  I did it on Sunday afternoon.  Well before everything was picked over.  Although I did see someone with a cart full of toilet paper.  I laughed.  Out loud.  Practically in front of the person.  Seriously?  How long do you think you’re going to be snowed in.  No, it doesn’t make any difference at all that I have a closet full of toilet paper.  I did not buy it all at once . . .

Zumba was fun.  Practically killed me, but it was fun.  I learned during Zumba class that my back is still messed up from when I fell in the parking lot a week or so ago.  Learned it when I had to lay on the hard floor and do leg exercises.  Oh and the bump on the top of my head . . . it’s still there too.  Discovered that when I was putting my hair up in a pony tail Saturday morning!

My leg muscles were a sore on Sunday from previously mentioned Zumba class.  So I went Mall Walking . . . bawahahahaha . . . oh dear the things I saw.  The Mommy that was holding the Poor Baby as she got her ears pierced at the earring store.  Really?  Why do that to a poor baby?  Then there was the young kid with a spiked mohawk . . . bleached blond spiked mohawk . . . for a minute I thought I was back in the 80′s . . . And of course the obligatory young couple walking hand in hand through the mall . . . aaawwwww . . . I remember those days . . .

Yes I felt very old . . .

Did You Know He Said That?

The divorce came out of the blue . . . at least to almost everyone that was close to ExHubby and me . . . and from what I’m hearing, it was totally out of the blue for ExHubby. 

It was a long process.  There had been problems off and on for many years.  The last three years were particularly difficult.  I tried to tell ExHubby about the problems, but he never saw the problems.  How can you fix a problem if your significant other won’t acknowledge a problem exists?   So it went from bad, to worse, to “I’m done.” 

I have had a couple of people tell me that they weren’t really surprised by the news.  I’ve even had a couple of them ask what took me so long.  Guess the problems were pretty obvious to everyone but me and him.

I’m taking the high road and telling a non-descript version of the story.  Things weren’t working.  It had been going down hill for a long time.  I thought it would be best to end things now before we hated each other.  Even though I can’t be married to him anymore, I still love him and I don’t want to drag our dirty laundry out in public. 

I’ve told my family and the step-kids the true story behind the divorce.  I figure those are the only people who really need to know.  I’ve told ExHubby my side of the story but he’s in denial and won’t/can’t believe me.

I know he’s telling his side of the story to everyone that will listen.  I know this because I’m hearing his side of the story from the people who have heard it. 

I heard his side of the story from my mother.  Yes, he called her the day he moved out to tell her that he was leaving and why.

I heard his side of the story from my next door neighbor.  He told him the entire story when he was moving furniture out.

I heard his side of the story from a mutual friend that used to work with him at the auto parts store.  Evidently he’s been telling his side of the story to her for years.

We live in a small town.  He grew up in this small town and knows a lot of people.  I’ve lived here for 28 years . . . a lot of people know me as His Wife.  If these are the stories that are coming back to me . . . can you imagine the ones that aren’t? 

And everytime I hear another report of what he’s saying, I smile sweetly and say “Yes, I know what he’s saying.  It’s unfortunate that he’s doing it but what can I do?”  And my favorite response, “There are three sides to every story, his, mine, and the truth.”

I guess I could say someting to him about it, but I’m kind of in a no win situation here.  The person he is now is not the person I married and it’s a crap shoot whether I’ll get the nice guy or the cranky pain-in-the-ass.  If it’s the nice guy, I’m happy he’s not complaining about something.  If it’s the cranky pain-in-the-ass, I want him to leave as soon as possible before we start a fight.  I figure that if I keep my mouth shut and he keeps running his, then everyone will learn the truth . . . karma will bite him eventually . . .

Things That Make You Go Hmmm . . .

It’s been an interesting week . . .

Can someone please explain when it became acceptable to wear your pajamas in public?  Trust me . . . nobody wants to see a grown man in M&M pajama pants.  I saw them on someone in the waiting room at work. 

Can someone explain to me when it became acceptable to carry on a conversation on a cell phone while you are in the stall in the ladies room?  The person you are talking to doesn’t want to know where you are and what you are doing.  Others in the ladies room with you do not want to hear your personal business.  Yes, again something that happened while I was at work this week.

And both of these things happened within a two hour time frame yesterday afternoon . . .

Sniff, Cough, Sneeze

The cost of the lovely weekend away now includes a lovely head cold complete with stuffy nose, horrible headache, sneezing my fool head off, and a lovely cough . . .

Still it was worth EVERY MINUTE and I’d do it again in a HEARTBEAT . . .

Thank you bestest friend for the greatest weekend of my life so far!!

=0)

Do We Really Care?

Whether President Obama is dying his hair??

That Oprah has a family secret?  After being in the spotlight for 25 years don’t we already know everything possible about her?

Whether Jay Cutler of the Chicago Bears used his injury as an excuse to give up when it was clear that they weren’t going to the Super Bowl?

That Prince William only proposed to Kate because he was afraid his “hotness” was fading with his receding hairline?

Evidently, I do because those are all articles I just “had” to read this morning!

Stuff Rattling Around In My Brain

I’m kind of new to the whole WordPress thing . . . they dragged me over here kicking and screaming from MSN Spaces . . . but I am seriously loving this . . . I get to see the stats on a cute little bar graph . . . and there were 50 people that looked at my blog today . . . wow, I’ve never had that many people look at my blog in one day . . .

ExHubby came over today to get his mail . . . yes, he still has mail coming here . . . he picks it up on Sunday afternoon after bowling . . . I spent the morning cleaning the house before he got here . . . and I made sure I was dressed, hair done, and makeup on too . . . yes, at some point it did seem a little odd to me that I cared enough to put my best foot forward with him . . . he never noticed or cared before, what makes me think he will notice or care now?!  More importantly, why do I still care what he thinks?

While I was cleaning the house, I noticed that the house seems a little bare.  But it’s a nice kind of bare because when ExHubby was here, I thought the house was too cluttered.  There was entirely too much “stuff” in this house and most of the stuff left with ExHubby.  That’s when I realized that I spent most of my adult life acquring “things” that didn’t belong to me . . . 

When ExHubby was here today, he was very pleasant.  We had a nice conversation about stuff going on in his life, stuff going on in my life, Rocky and Millie . . . and it was nice to not have to deal with the tension and anger that has been between us the past few months . . . I finally feel like I did the right thing ending the marriage before we ended up hating each other . . .

I’ve been watching football all afternoon . . . I was rooting for Da Bears . . . and was horribly disappointed . . . I’m only rooting for the Steelers because I made a bet that Green Bay would beat them in the Super Bowl . . .

It’s been an interesting day . . .

Lazy Saturday

Ever have one of those days where you don’t want to do anything or go anywhere?  Where all you want to do is sit on the couch with the heating pad and watch TV all day?  I had one of those days.  Of course, it helped that it was pretty close to 0 degrees today. 

Yes . . . it was 0 degrees today.  Started out that way and it made it up to about 21 degrees (which is where it is now).  The sun was out most of the day and it was beautiful with all the lovely snow we got the other day.  But it is still just really really cold. 

So I stayed inside . . . did some laundry, watched some tv, watched the dogs play in the back yard (they don’t seem to mind the cold).  The only time I ventured out was to start the dogmobile and to go to Mass.  And since I was already out . . . . I made a quick trip to Wally . . . yea, that’s a post all of it’s own!

And the best part . . . I get to do the hibernation thing again tomorrow!

Oh Bother!

I have a cold!  I’m not sure but I think it has something to do with the warm temps and sunshine over the weekend . . . and then coming back to the icebox that I loving call “home” . . . My nose is stuffy, I’m cranky, and I know it’s going to get worse before it gets better!

I fell in the parking lot at work today.  The snow from the other day melted and left a lovely sheet of ice . . . under another lovely layer of snow!  It had just started snowing so the lot wasn’t treated yet.  I made it out of the dangerous part and into the treated part . . . and remembered I forgot something in my car!  Soooo, back I go to get the stuff out of my car . . . and I wasn’t paying attention to what I was doing . . . and the next thing I know I’m flat on my back.  Oh bother . . . arms work just fine and nothing seems broken.  I have a nice goose egg on the top of my head (I have no idea how I did that!) and as the day went on I started to notice more sore muscles.  Yes, I’m fine . . . good thing about working at a health care facility is there is no shortage of trained medical professionals to check on you. 

So we have about 5 inches of snow on the ground . . . and it’s going to be brrr bitterly cold tonight . . . puppies are happy that we have snow . . . mommy is not . . . I need to find a snow elf to help keep the side walks clear . . . I need to figure out a way to take a snow day so I don’t have to go out and deal with the “white death from above”!!

Home Again, Home Again

I had a wonderful time on my trip.  It was great to see my friend and spend the weekend away from home.  The troubles I’ve had lately don’t seem so bad now.  It’s amazing what some laughter, some sunshine, and spending time with someone who only has your best interests at heart can do for a girl’s soul. 

The doggies went to puppy camp . . . what I call when they go to the kennel.  It’s the same kennel they’ve always gone to.  They know the routine and the people who work there and they have a wonderful time . . . but they’ve been asleep for most of the evening . . .

We’re settling back into our normal routine . . .

Here I am home again . . . and evil plotting when I can go back . . .

Otherwise Detained

Yea, I’m still spoiling myself.  Eating too much.  Laughing too much.  Soaking up the good times with my oldest and bestest friend . . . I guess God really knew what He was doing when He pushed me in this direction.

Hey, did you know that you can buy Jack & Coke in bottles now?  They’re in the same section of Wally as the wine koolers and the beer!  Wow . . . maybe I need to get out more!

More stories of my adventures to follow!!